Guilt, Unworthiness and Fear are Merely Illusions
February 19, 2010
aspaceoflove
The following is Day 12 from the Free e-Course “Finding True Love,” based on an out of print book by Chuck Spezzano. You can sign up to receive a lesson daily, or read the entire e-course:
http://aspaceoflove.com/ecourses.html
Before you read this I’d like to add one thought. In ‘A Course in Miracles’ it says, “God knows you don’t know how to forgive, be willing to forgive and God will take care of the rest.” Guilt is always about an unwillingness to forgive ourselves. But we don’t even know how to forgive ourselves! ”I am willing” is the key. Just start saying to yourself, “I am willing to forgive myself” or “I am willing to release this feeling of guilt” (or unworthiness or fear) and then allow God (or whatever word you want to use – the Universe, Love etc…) to take care of the rest. Remember it only require willingness, nothing else!
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Guilt, Unworthiness and Fear are Merely Illusions.
All negative emotions are illusions. Certainly we experience them and they affect us and sometimes even kill us. But, the good news is, these feelings are an illusion.
Painful feelings are an indication that something is amiss. I’ve worked with tens of thousands of people around the world and I have yet to find anyone, with any kind of willingness, who was unable to resolve the blackest guilt, the deepest pain or the greatest fear.
The basis of the mind is happiness, or wholeness, and it is that wholeness which allows and promotes our continued movement towards growth and healing.
I’ve encountered many people who thought they were to blame for problem situations in their families while they were growing up, or for other dilemmas they encountered in life. They thought they were so guilty that they did not deserve to have a partner.
I’ve met many others who thought so poorly about themselves they believed they were unworthy of a partner. Others, who wanted a partner, were afraid to have one, because they felt they were too inadequate to be intimate. They were afraid that when their partners got to know them, they would leave them.
These feelings can be corrected fairly easily. Know that even though you are experiencing such feelings they are not accurate. These feelings, which can block you from finding a partner and destroy relationships, are not the truth. They can be resolved if you are willing to find the way past them, and change, so your life can be better.
Exercise
Make a personal inventory of all the negative feelings which may stop you from finding your perfect mate.
Don’t make a monument to a mistake. Don’t let mistakes be the superglue which stops you moving forward. If you are willing to change, a better life awaits you.
Choose the truth.
Be willing to have a new perception of situations where you are in pain. Pain is an indication of misperception. Your Higher Mind can give you a perception where no one is to blame, not even you.
Ask yourself: ‘What has been my purpose in holding on to the old pain?’
Now make a choice as to whether your being right about how you experienced situations and the lack of love and success it entails is more important to you than learning the truth and being successful and happy.
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Lorna |
February 19, 2010 at 3:30 pm
Thank you for this Heather; I needed this today! (and everyday…)
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aspaceoflove |
February 19, 2010 at 5:19 pm
I’m so happy this is helpful! I have to remind myself of these things all the time!
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Malika |
February 19, 2010 at 6:13 pm
I think I show a loving relationship light after reading this….Woohoo
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aspaceoflove |
February 19, 2010 at 6:18 pm
Hi Malika! Even without seeing your picture I can see your luminous smile!